Vent about my mother!

Ohh my lovely mother! Let’s see I posted a while back about my mom and how she spoils rhylan way to much and let him get away with everything. Not only does she do that but she tries to raise him how she wants. That includes not making him take a nap, giving him sweets, letting him cry for everything, going to be when he wants too. That’s just a little list; I could go on for hours. We lately he has been staying with her allot cause I have been pretty busy babysitting for other families. We he has gotten out of his regular routine and doing as he pleases. He tries to not take a nap, he does want any of his regular food he drinks he just wants junk, he wants soda pop you name it everything. anyways the last night he stayed with her was saturday night and dh had gone over there to take diapers(btw she wont buy some to keep at her house she just uses all of ours)well rhylan cried when he left so he ended up taking him back home. Well my mom calls my dad on his Nextel and says "make sure Jake is listening, rhylan misses him so much blahh blahhhhh" Well when she does this it’s to make us feel bad for leaving him. Well the thing I don’t get is if we don’t let him come over she gets mad and then if we do leave him she makes us feel bad. I just don’t get it! I don’t get why she is trying to make rules for him and let him to whatever, like practically raising him how she wants. It really ticks me off that she doesn’t listen to anything I have to say or want done. I have told her to let him cry a little bit at bed time, but she says there is no reason for him to cry and lets him get back up. We have fought and fought about this several times and nothing seems to change! I feel like rhylan is her kid because he is going but what she does and lets him do. Today I wrote her an email and told her that rhylan doesn’t need to be coming to her house everyday any more and can spend 2 nights a week overnight. Well what do you know she blew it up and says that I make her feel bad and I take everything wrong and blahhhhh blahhh So she sends my dad over here (btw she always tries to do this like he is going to make it all better and doesn’t he makes it worse) and he is like where is rhylan? and I said well I finally just calmed him down and he is trying to take a nap, well he proceeds to go to his room and I am like hello don’t go in there he is trying to rest! He gets all mad and is like whatever and leaves. Well for one were going through a stage where he is refusing any type of bedtime so its takes a while to get him to sleep and why would he just walk in there like there is no such thing as nap time? I’m sorry but he needs his naps, or he is a grouch! I just don’t get why she won’t respect my wishes? Why does she do as she pleases? I just want her to listen to how I want my son raised and respect it!! Sorry I vented too much but it really hurts my feelings that she does respect nothing! I don’t want to have a spoiled rotten brat as a child! I want my son to be a good kid and listen! I’m sure half of this doesn’t make sense or is misspelled sorry :[ Thanks for letting me vent!